There is always a brighter side of every dark thing, same applies to break ups also. Getting hurt can actually help you to focus on your own life, to stay strong and most importantly to give importance to your own dreams. when life offers you lemons, make a lemonade relying on this quote focus on your own life. Love yourself and do what you want to do.
Imagine that you have a personal goal, such as exercising regularly. Now, imagine you also have a romantic partner. That partner can either help (e.g. by encouraging you to join them in exercising) or hinder (e.g., by encouraging you to stay home and binge watch your favorite TV show) your pursuit of your goal to exercise regularly. If your partner helps you, researchers would say that your partner is instrumental to helping you pursue the goal. If instead of helping you, your partner hindered, or got in the way of completing the goal or didn’t help you to complete it, then researchers would say that your partner is non-instrumental to helping you complete the goal.
There has been a growing body of research on how romantic couple members help each other complete their goals but recently researchers set out to examine what happens to goal pursuit after breakup.1 To do this, researchers asked people about a goal that they were pursuing (e.g., getting good grades) and how well their romantic partner helped them towards attaining the goal (e.g., the extent to which their partner helped). The researchers then contacted the participants 2-3 months later; some of the participants’ relationships had ended in that 2-3 month period.
When a romantic relationship ended with a partner who was instrumental to completing a goal, participants’ goal pursuit was hindered. Why? They no longer had that person there to help them to complete their goal and so they didn’t make as much progress. However, when a relationship ended with a partner who was non-instrumental, there was a trend towards participants’ goal pursuit being helped; they were now able to pursue that goal without their partner getting in the way. The researchers also found that relationships with non-instrumental partners were more likely to end than were relationships with instrumental partners.