Flirting, almost every relationship start with this beautiful and interesting art. Some people are flirt by nature but maximum people take the help of this art to attract his\her partner.Girls are also not behind in this art. Flirting can create magic in your relationship and will make your partner attracted towards you.Flirting usually involves speaking and behaving in a way that suggests a mildly greater intimacy than the actual relationship between the parties would justify, though within the rules of social etiquette, which generally disapproves of a direct expression of sexual interest.Yes you can flirt with your crush decently but remember one thing that you should not cross the fine line of respect.
Here are compilation of some facts that will help you to master the concept of flirting:
<span style=”color: #ff0000;”>Why do we flirt?
Flirting comes in many forms: a casual gaze that lingers a half second longer than normal, a light touch, a “flirty face”, an overenthusiastic laugh during conversation, or even some overtly sexual or playful banter. Regardless of the technique employed, flirting aims to fulfill one purpose: stimulate sexual interest. To be clear, flirting’s pursuit of sexual interest may not have the explicit goal of having sex or even physical intimacy of any kind. Rather, a person may flirt simply to pass the time, to feel close, to see if they still “have it” or because it is fun. Flirting motivations differ by gender with men’s flirting more motivated by sex, while women’s flirting more motivated by having fun or to become closer to another person.
<span style=”color: #ff0000;”>Relation between self respect and flirting:
Regardless of one’s motivation, flirting benefits from keeping the flirter’s intentions ambiguous. When done well, flirting is not overt or obvious and always leaves open the possibility that flirting wasn’t occurring at all. This allows a person to put her or himself “out there” with less fear of embarrassment, rejection or damaged self-esteem. It isn’t surprising that a person’s self-esteem may affect one’s flirting approach. For men, when the risk of being rejected was low those with low self-esteem used more obvious approaches than men with high self-esteem. When rejection risk was high, the high self-esteem males were more direct, perhaps because they were less concerned with how being shot down would impact their self-esteem. For women, when rejection risk was low, they were more direct regardless of their self-esteem, which may be because they traditionally initiate relationships less often than men.3
<span style=”color: #ff0000;”>Technique of flirting:
When it comes to flirting technique the research is pretty clear that, while subtle techniques are more likely to protect the flirter’s self-esteem, if you really want to get your message across, direct is best. A study asked college students about the most effective ways to show interest in someone. Both men and women agreed that subtle flirting was less likely to get the job done, and that the best approach would be a direct “Do you want to go to dinner with me?” Of course, this study put people in the position of being propositioned by someone else, a situation when clarity would certainly be useful.
<span style=”color: #ff0000;”>The maths behind flirting:
A key benefit to direct flirting approaches, especially to the person on the receiving end, is that they are clear and easier to interpret. Much like trees falling in a forest, if a flirting attempt occurs and the intended receiver doesn’t realize it, did flirting ever really happen? To see how easy it was for receivers to accurately perceive another person’s flirting, researchers gave over 100 heterosexual strangers the opportunity to interact for 10 minutes. Afterward, each participant indicated whether they were flirting or not and whether they thought their partner was flirting.
Overall, 24% of the participants flirted during their interaction. Participants accurately perceived flirting only 28% of the time with males more accurately detecting female flirting (36%) than females were at detecting male’s flirting (18%). Those numbers are all fairly low, but participants were much better at knowing when their partner was not flirting, accurately characterizing lack of flirting 84% of the time. Of course, this could be because most of the time participants weren’t flirting with each other making it easier to correctly guess that a participant wasn’t flirting.
A follow-up study wanted to see if outside observers were any better at accurately detecting flirting. To test this, researchers had over 250 participants view 1-minute video clips from Study 1 interactions to see if they could accurately identify flirting in strangers. Results indicate that males were again more accurate at determining when women flirted, but that this was likely because men generally tend to overestimate women’s interest, giving them more of a chance to be correct when women were actually flirting. This study also showed that observers who were not involved in the actual interaction were less accurate at identifying flirting than those who were actually involved.
Across both studies, the ability to detect flirting was probably lower than any flirty person would like. But as lead researcher Jeffrey Hall explains, “Behavior that is flirtatious is hard to see, and there are several reasons for that…People aren’t going to do it in obvious ways because they don’t want to be embarrassed, flirting looks a lot like being friendly, and we are not accustomed to having our flirting validated so we can get better at seeing it.”
Overall, the science of flirting seems to suggest that if you want to create sexual interest in another person through flirting and really want to get your message across, direct methods are best. While an ambiguous approach is less threatening, it ultimately is not very effective because accurately perceiving another person’s flirting is actually quite difficult.