Your life changes drastically when you retire … you become old
Suddenly from a central part of family you become a dependent member
Your free time and monotony in life can kill you… you can end up with depression and many other mood issues
Older people are especially vulnerable to loneliness and social isolation – and it can have a serious effect on health. But there are ways to overcome loneliness, even if you live alone and find it hard to get out.
Here are some tips for you to enjoy your second innings fully:
Grab every chance to smile at others or begin a conversation – for instance with the cashier at the shop or the person next to you in the GP waiting room. If you’re shy or not sure what to say, try asking people about themselves.
Spend time with your friends:
If you’re feeling down and alone, it’s tempting to think that no-one wants to visit you. But often, friends, family and neighbours will appreciate receiving an invitation to come and spend some time with you.
Make a group to hold regular free Sunday afternoon tea parties for people over-65.
Having a chat with a friend or relative over the phone can be the next best thing to being with them.This will give you a feeling of being connected to your loved ones and will relieve your lots of stress.
Learn to love computers:
If your friends and family live far away, a good way to keep in touch, especially with grandchildren, is by using a personal computer or tablet (hand held computer). You can share emails and photos with family and friends, have free video chats using services such as Skype, Face Time or Viber and make new online ‘friends’ or reconnect with old friends with social media sites such as Facebook or Twitter, and website forums.
A tablet computer can be especially useful if you can’t get around very easily as you can sit with it on your knee or close to hand and the screen is clear and bright. A sponge tip stylus pen or speech recognition may help if the touchscreen is difficult for arthritic hands or fingers with poor circulation.
Libraries and community centres often hold regular training courses for older people to learn basic computer skills – as well as being a good place to meet and spend time with others in their own right.
Get involved in local community activities
These will vary according to where you live, but the chances are you’ll have access to a singing or walking group, book clubs, bridge, bingo, quiz nights and faith groups. Get involved in the Group Activities.
Fill your diary:
It can help you feel less lonely if you plan the week ahead and put things in your diary to look forward to each day, such as a walk in the park, going to a local coffee shop, library, sports centre, cinema or museum.
Express your emotions to your diary… it will ease you out.
Don’t wait for people to come and see you – travel to visit them. One advantage of being older is that public transport is better value. Bus travel is free for over-60s across some countries. And for longer distances, train and coach travel can be cheap too, especially if you book in advance, online and use a senior rail card.
Use the knowledge and experience you’ve gained over a lifetime to give something back to your community. You’ll get lots back in return, such as new skills and confidence and, hopefully, new friends too.
There are endless volunteering opportunities which relish the qualities and skills of older people – such as patience, experience and calmness.
There is no age for learning:
learn whatever you want… Join its classes… it will keep you busy, help you to learn new skills
Do whatever you always wanted to do …