We all want to have a lots of friends. Everyone wants to be loved. You need to be smart enough to handle each and everyone.
Here are some tips for you to have an amazing Social life:
First you Figure out what you Expect from Friends. Improving your social life is as much about knowing what you want as finding people who want to be with you. Take some time to think about the kinds of people you like to hang out with. What do they do? How do they act? What are their “perfect Friday night” plans? Think about old friends you’ve had and why you enjoy their company. Think about: Hobbies, Demeanor, Interests, Conversation habits, Energy levels
Be approachable. Keep a smile on your face, stay well groomed, and wear decent, clean clothes. It’s not about being shallow, but about giving a good impression of yourself. This makes people feel comfortable coming up to you to spend time.
- Make sure you are as clean as possible. Teeth properly brushed and flossed, good deodorant, good perfume, hair clean, deeply clean and moisturized skin and clean clothes.
- Keep up with a nice style that is still “you”. You do not have to “dress up” to be more sociable, you just need to take care of yourself.
Focus on your body language. This signals to people that you are willing to talk and want to be social. People will naturally flock to someone who exudes positive, social energy, and your body language is one of the easiest natural ways to do so. To have open body language:
- Keep your arms to the side and your shoulders back, opening up your chest.
- Make eye contact with whoever is talking.
- Smile frequently.
- Turn your shoulders to face people as they speak.
- Keep you chin up, parallel to the floor.
- Stand and sit tall; avoid looking hunched over.
Invite people to your house. This is a great, low-key way to practice your social skills in a location that you feel comfortable. You can control the number of people, the activities, and the amount of time you are hanging out. If you are especially shy or have trouble initiating conversations in a group, practicing at home is a great way to improve your sociability.
- Have a dinner party or invite a person to eat with you at lunch.
- Host a sport or TV watch party, allowing you to tune into the TV if there is a lull in the conversation.
Maintain all your current relationships and friendships. Most relationships only get better with time and age, but they take some work to maintain. This helps you realize what is important to you in a friendship and the types of conversations you enjoy having. These skills will transfer over to your new friendships as well, and your old friends are often the ones who introduce you to new friendships.
- Talk to your friends once a week or month.
- Keep making plans with old friends.
Do not fear rejection. Don’t worry if you don’t immediately gel with someone. This isn’t your fault, it just means that you and your friends were not compatible. Making friends and being sociable is not about “winning” or racking up the largest amount of friends. It’s about finding the one or two people you feel comfortable with.
- Focus on the quality of interactions, not the quantity. You don’t want a bunch of half friends and acquaintances — you want a few great friends to build a social group around.
Be your own Kind of Crazy. Lots of people are “normal,” and no one wants the same friend over and over. Be weird, be quirky, be interesting– be yourself. You’ll attract similar friends, and these are the connections that you will cherish. Trying to change yourself will only lead to awkwardness and missed connections, because you will never keep up the act.
- Being more sociable is about being friendly, not cool.
Start with small Steps. There is no reason to run out and go clubbing if you feel your social life is stagnating. Take small steps to build your network of friends, starting by making the most of your current acquaintances. Have a conversation with a co-worker or fellow classmate who you don’t normally interact with, reach out to your neighbors, and spend time with someone you don’t normally see. You’ll be surprised how friendly people will be if you make the effort to talk about something other than work or school.
- Take advantage of nearby events, like company get-togethers or after-school events, where there is a natural social connection.
- Accept invitations, even if you feel a little out of place at first. By showing you are receptive to social settings you open yourself up to future groups of friends.
- Things may be awkward at first, but know that this is natural until you know each other a little better.
Ask your current friends to bring their friends to events. The best way to meet new people is to use the people you already know. If you’re going out, encourage your friends to invite a “plus one.” Because you already know your friend, you have a natural introduction that can help get over awkward first meetings. Moreover, your mutual friends likely have common interests and hobbies, meaning you are more likely to connect with someone who is a friend of a friend.
- Go to your friend’s events or parties, especially if you won’t know everyone there.
- Introduce your own friends to get the ball rolling — bringing an extroverted or interesting friend along signals that you want to meet new people.
Go Where ever you feel comfortable. You don’t have to go to a super fancy restaurant if it’s not your style. This can lead to shyness and a difficulty fitting in with nearby people. You must go places where you feel good, as it will be easier to find similar people to be friends.
- Love outdoor adventure? Head to your local rock wall and ask for a belay partner to make an instant connection.
- Love music and concerts? Read your local newspaper for live music venues and check out a concert.
- Love art and culture? Go to small art galleries or shows in your area and ask the artists about their work, or other people’s opinions on the show.
Listen More, Talk Less. It is impossible to relax when you are telling yourself to relax. Instead, focus on the other person in the conversation. Listen to them and be curious about their life. Ask questions and get to know them. You don’t need to share your life story with someone right off the bat to make conversation, you just need to be able to thoughtfully listen.
- Follow up questions are key. If you ask “What do you do for work,” you can follow up with “do you enjoy what you do?” This keeps the conversation rolling fluidly forward.
- Being an active listener takes the pressure off of you to keep talking, which makes it easier to hold a conversation.
You can Give compliment occasionally. Flirting, whether with potential dates or friends, is simply a way to show your interest in someone. It feels good to hear a genuine compliment, and it creates a bond that can move beyond acquaintances and into friendship. The compliment does not have to be huge — a simple “I love that scarf,” or “that’s a really good point” is a nice, light way to be a friend.