Dating a younger person is an intriguing proposition for a lot of men, but like any relationship, it has its ups and downs, and you will have to put in a healthy amount of effort to make things work. Here are nine tips that could come in handy should you find yourself with a younger companion.
Never Father her :
You may be ten or even fifteen years up on her, and may have seen more of the world than she has, but please, do not move into “dad” territory. Not only is it borderline creepy, but it could bring out some repressed feelings and turn the relationship ugly real fast. Also for the love of god, never start or end your sentences with the term “In my day”. That’s just weird!
Don’t pressurise her into getting married :
We get it; as an Indian man, you’re constantly being pressurised by your parents, friends, and that random aunty who lives in your building, but that doesn’t mean you unload some of that stress upon her. Remember when you were that age and the thought of marriage made you gag? That could be her, so don’t ambush her into meeting your folks, unless she’s ready for it.
Don’t get jealous of her social circle :
As someone younger than you, she probably will have more friends, and many of them will be guys. That shouldn’t make you feel insecure. Please don’t stalk her on socials, or try and read her text messages while she’s in the bathroom. Once again, this will only put a wedge between the two of you. You have to trust her, and if it really makes you that uncomfortable, put your thoughts across in a mature and sensible way. If she really cares about you, she will respect your feelings.
Do not force her to hang out with your friends and their children :
Once you’ve past your twenties, chances are most of your friends will be married with children. Younger women may not be extremely comfortable around screaming children, so don’t force her to socialise with your friends, especially when there are kids around.
Don’t be condescending :
Being younger in age may make her views on the world seem a bit naive, but that doesn’t give you the right to mock them. Share some of your life lessons with her, and advice her (in limits) if the situation calls for it. Just remember not to lecture her because once again, this moves things into “dad” territory.
Don’t be afraid to communicate :
One of the reasons women date older guys is because they bring a sense of maturity to the table that younger guys don’t. This means being able to communicate your feelings (no, that doesn’t make you lame), and helping her express hers (if she has any difficulty expressing them in the first place).
Don’t be someone you’re not :
Once you enter your thirties, you should be comfortable with your personality, and you shouldn’t have to change yourself for anyone. Enjoying the spontaneity is fine, but don’t force yourself to do things you wouldn’t normally do just to make her happy. Make her see the real you, and if that’s not good enough for her, too bad.
Don’t pressurise her into having sex :
p style=”text-align: justify;”>Depending on how young the girl is (and we really hope she’s old enough to legally drink), she could be a virgin, so pressurising her to have sex will only make her dislike the act further. Take your time, let her warm up to the idea, and please do not take her to some seedy hotel, especially if it’s her first time.